Video Games Are Anti-Social and Addictive

Published on February 24, 2007 By Jythier In Gaming

First of all, I'd like to say that the anti-social behavior this article is talking about has nothing to do with violence. Violence and video games is a completely different argument.

Video games allow a person to feel as if they have accomplished something without doing anything. So you beat every Final Fantasy. Nobody really cares, except other people that have played Final Fantasy, and even they don't care that much.

A huge problem is that a lot of women are not gamers. Some are, sure, but a lot aren't. These women tend to have very little respect for in-game accomplishments. That's why a lot of gamer guys want to date a gamer girl - because she is more likely to give him the respect he doesn't deserve. I know it's not a big deal to my wife that I can build a business in Capitalism 2, a theme park in RollerCoaster Tycoon(though I did get her playing that one) or that I can build a city in Sim City 4. Every time I say "Look what I did" she reminds me that I did nothing, which is the truth.

But it does not feel that way when I am doing it. None of it is worth anything in the real world, but it feels like it's so important. So I waste time with them instead of hanging out with my family, doing work, or spending time with God or on ministry.

You may say, "But I play video games and I do all those other things too." I say to you, are you doing those things while playing video games? If so, then there is room for them in your life. Sadly, in my life, my wife is not interested and my son is not old enough. Work has it's 40 hours a week, so that's not an issue. The only thing left is God and ministry. The only way I can do ministry through video games is to play multiplayer games, so all single player games are out. And God wants me out there doing real things for real people. So even multiplayer games are out.

So my video game time really is wasted time. But I'm not going to give them up yet. I'm not ready. I'm still addicted. I want to accomplish fake things, because it's fun. One may say to me, "Entertainment is needed too, so video games are okay in moderation." But really, I could have just as much fun playing with my son, hanging out with my wife, talking to God, or doing ministry. So I'm thoroughly convinced that these games are not needed. But it's just like any other addiction... it'll eat away at me until I give in, or I get over it. I'm still giving in.

Comments (Page 13)

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Sodaiho

on Feb 27, 2008

Generally I think video games are far more constructive than past offenders, like comics and TV, because they're interactive and many of them require some thought. The twitch variety have been shown to develop reflexes and hand eye coordination, whereas strategic games (like GalCiv) definitely promote problem solving and strategic thinking.

For the sake of what, however? I've heard this arguement before, but wonder when the gamers are ever going to use these increased skills and capacities other than in more gaming. As a school psychologist I found gaming a huge distraction, parents unwilling to supervise and involve themselves with children would plop them down in front of a game set or tv, for that matter, and be done with them. Of course, they were always the loudest screamers regarding the quality of their children's education at conferences.

I am not against video games, notr against games in general. I love chess, for example, but I know these things take a huge amount of kid's time away from actrualk social interaction, real study skill development, or their ability to partner5 with parents in creating and maintaining a home.

iNTERESTING atricle J, thanks! Now, get back to that game we are playing online

182

Roxlimn

on Feb 27, 2008

I've heard that the increased capability Generation I has for computer operation grants them a significant advantage in operating unmanned vehicles - the new mode of warfare for the new century, so if nothing else, video games helps the new generation kill other people with greater facility.

It's also supposed to aid in learning the controls for laparoscopic surgery, robotic surgery, operating robots in industry like engineering and construction and surprisingly driving, though I have some doubts about the last one.

So clearly, since none of these activities have anything to do with productivity or getting saved, video games really are just for fun, and the capability and reflexes you get from gaming will only ever matter in gaming.

183

Zoomba

on Feb 27, 2008

Why do you dispute this? Why do you feel reading fiction is not a waste of time? Reading fiction might even be worse! I do that too... all that time wasted...

I still don't see why leisure time must be productive.

I'm productive 8-10hrs a day at my job, and typically quite a few more at home doing chores, errands etc. I'm doing stuff the majority of my waking hours. I read, play video games etc to wind down, to let my mind and body relax a bit and decompress from the day.

If I had to be productive even in my leisure time, I'd go insane

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Zoologist03

on Feb 27, 2008

Why do you dispute this? Why do you feel reading fiction is not a waste of time? Reading fiction might even be worse! I do that too... all that time wasted...

Actually, I thought reading was a qunitessential way to go about increasing one's vocabulary, concentration, and comprehension. Fiction presents you with an alternate reality and a gripping storyline...so you learn and enjoy it.

Personally, I'd give up videogames before I ever gave up reading nice thick novels(good ones, anyway). I've even taken breaks from gaming to read.

Then again, I am a huge nerd.

~Zoo

185

Jythier

on Feb 27, 2008

qunitessential

Apparently your vocabulary has increased!

So there you go, being productive in your leisure time...

186

shadrac1701

on Feb 27, 2008

If your ministry is geared toward youth, how will you ever minister to them if you do not understand things from their view?Jesus got down on our level, became one of the people, a simple carpenter, a commoner, and ministered to people from the inside out. He called for us to be like Him in that we do the same, or we try to do the same.Please, do not misunderstand my words, I am simply voicing my opinion. Yes, I am a Christian, and yes, I play video games. I love video games. I have a talent for computers. I plan to use this talent for God, for Jesus, and for others. If it is not my place in life, then God will correct me. Until then, I do what I do, for God. I only wish to serve God to the best of my abilities, and in spite of the mistakes I make, I know God loves me.For the love of...whoops, almost stepped on a hypocrisy landmine there.What does religion have to do with video games? Firstly, the "Left Behind" video game was by all accounts TERRIBLE, and the books were worse (As it turns out, the Rapture does not EVER appear in the book of revelations...doesn't that make it blasphemy, technically?). There is NO reason why religion should be in this thread (let alone species' general culture, but that's another debate) at all. Can we please be relevent here?Okay. Done ranting. Post-editorial apoloties if I offended anyone.Let me try to put this more eloquently: religion is too often used as a cover to hide otherwise unjustifiable beliefs behind. Video games are one of those cases. Please do not jeapordize your argument by assuming a simplistic mantle; there are far to many who would not appreciate your school of thought and will simply take your arguments as boons to their cause.Whoops, there are some torches, pitchforks, and inquisitors outside my door that i need to go see to...

Ahem...My most humble apologies...but I have no clue what you are saying. What argument and what simplistic mantle? As said before, I am voicing my opinion...not voicing an argument.

187

Zoologist03

on Feb 27, 2008

Apparently your vocabulary has increased!

So there you go, being productive in your leisure time...

And apparently I can't spell it right.

I need to proofread more.

But yeah, reading is productive...doesn't have to be, but it usually is...it's like a trick.

~Zoo

188

OckhamsRazor

on Feb 27, 2008

Heh, I saw this in the recent post list and thought "wtf? I read that a year ago, didn't I?" And sure enough...Lazarus, indeed

I'll just add a bit here. Jythier and I matched up in online Chess over the last couple of days, and last night finished a game where he bested me at the end in a real nail-biter. I've been looking for a good place to give him a public respectful nod for his skillful play, and BOOM - here's this article again. Perfect. Consider that nod given

But to the subject, the game between Jythier and myself bore fruit - at least for me - I can't speak for him. Over the last year or so, we have disagreed on many many things. He's very religious, and I'm very not religious, and that of course will cause friction.

But the chess match erased all that for a bit and allowed us to just be two guys on common ground with common goals. The obvious goal - to win - I do not discount, but I really felt it was more important to both of us to just play well. I'll let him agree or disagree with that on his own.

We didn't speak much during the game - at least not with words (there is a chat function on the page the game is played out on) - but I felt it quite a social thing.

Now does that make a good argument for playing video games in general? Well, I think Chess is a little different. Had he and I been on opposite sides of a Team Fortress XBox 360 match, I'm not sure I'd have gotten the same thing out of it, but for now, I will say that online Chess is an exception to any generic rule about online gaming, and if there is one exception, it's enough to disprove a hypothesis.

In closing, thanks again for schooling me in a great game, J. I look forward to our next meeting on that common ground (which I shall probably get to as the weekend unfolds for me.)

189

Keilworth

on Feb 27, 2008

Either of you guys play ISC scrabble? Now THAT is a time-eater.

190

Jythier

on Feb 27, 2008

In closing, thanks again for schooling me in a great game, J. I look forward to our next meeting on that common ground (which I shall probably get to as the weekend unfolds for me.)

Thanks so much, Ock, for introducing me to the site! Already sent you another challenge so we can see how well I do with Black.

I think the difference between the experience playing chess with you and playing chess with someone else is going to be huge. The social aspect comes from already knowing you, having some idea of who you are and what your background is. Plus, wanting to play well so you'd know I wasn't a complete moron as I must seem to you sometimes.

But I absolutely agree with everything you posted.

In fact, I think that games, especially board games, are great ways of socializing, getting to know people, and even evagelizing. It's a great way to put people on an even platform, so that they can compete from equal points regardless of how much money they have, or any part of their background.

I don't think video games work quite as well, but someone who posted above seemed to think they would. So, if it's working, why not use it? I just found whenever I played video games, it was never quite as social as if we were doing anything else, or playing board games.

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Roxlimn

on Feb 28, 2008

Perhaps you simply need to play the more social games. Starcraft DotA is eminently social - it can't NOT be. There's simply not as much fun playing against people you don't know or won't see or talk to. Half the fun is getting together before and dissecting game events afterwards over snacks.

Counterstrike played casually in a shop is also very social. Everything you've leveled at videogames, in fact, should more correctly be leveled against the Internet. When video games were in arcades, people went into them to play, and they talked with other people who played, and watched people who were both worse and better than them - they talked about the games with other people sharing the same passion for the past time.

Heck, some legendary Tekken matchups in arcades were practically spectator sports. In Korea, it IS a spectator sport.

192

Vinraith

on Feb 28, 2008

My personal belief is that there are people with addictive personalities...my personal belief is that it's not an addictive personality so much as a repulsive society. the world out there is crazy, full of inhumanity and despair, and the people in it can be vindictive, petty, judgmental and small. a lot of time it's simply easier and less painful to stay in and keep to yourself, but that doesn't mean i think it's a good idea to do so.

Some of us just find other people, even pleasant people, tiring. Time alone is time to relax and recharge, social activities can be fun but they take a lot out of me. Introverts make up about 50% of the population, we just keep quiet by and large.

As to the OP, the poster appears to have a rather serious guilt complex about having certain kinds of fun, apparently induced by his particular religious beliefs. I hope he works out a way for himself to have a pleasant time and feel good about it, though that may require a re-evaluation of what religion means in his life. I've always thought religious systems that require an underlying denial of one's humanity (like, for example, the desire to relax and have fun by oneself from time to time) weren't particularly healthy.

It's also very unfortunate that this particular set of value judgements is being reinforced by his wife. I can't imagine being married to someone that has no understanding of my interests nor respect for my hobbies. My wife, who plays some games but has no interest in others, is still a good enough person and partner to show an interest in things that are important to me (and I return that favor regarding hobbies of hers).

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Jythier

on Feb 28, 2008

It's also very unfortunate that this particular set of value judgements is being reinforced by his wife. I can't imagine being married to someone that has no understanding of my interests nor respect for my hobbies. My wife, who plays some games but has no interest in others, is still a good enough person and partner to show an interest in things that are important to me (and I return that favor regarding hobbies of hers).

We're getting better!

She plays board games with me now...

And she'd play Tetris, probably.

Anyway, it has nothing to do with denying oneself fun - it's almost like a game in itself. Trying to maximize the amount of good you can do for the whole world within your time limitations and responsibilities.

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